Anonymous asked: hello there. i'm a proud girlfriend of a man in the army who is currently in Afghanistan. he should be coming back in December and we have been dating for 6 months. today he told me he thinks we should take a break until he comes home because he feels like he's not good enough for me and he feels like he's not going to come home. i''m going off to college in 2 months. do you think he really means it or hes just trying to push me away and i should stay? your answer will help me soo much <3
What it seems like to me is that he’s pushing you away just to save you the pain. He may be worried that something will happen to him, either physically or mentally, and he won’t come home the same. I mean, I would personally try and talk to him about it, try and ask him if there’s anything that’s been on his mind, if there’s anything that happened with his friends or family that’s making him feel the way he is. The best you can do is try to talk to him about it. If he doesn’t want to, just give him the time, and just tell him that you’ll be there when he does want to talk.
My boyfriend and I have our disagreements, so when one of us is feeling upset about something, the other tries to let them cool off. He actually felt somewhat of the same way of what you said with your boyfriend. He said he didn’t know if he was feeling the relationship, so I just tried my best to talk to him about it and see what was really on his mind.
I hope this helps. If you want, you can always come to us, off anonymous, and we can also respond privately.
-Katie
